What is venting

The reason why emotional dumping can at first feel like a cathartic release may be due to childhood attachment patterns. These attachment patterns are the strategies you learned when you were an infant to feel safe and secure in relation to your parents. Emotional dumping may have been modeled to people when they were children and interpreted as an experience of intimacy. These actions that can feel like intimacy, but keep people a distance are called defenses. Often these are parts of ourselves that, if seen by others, would make them abandon us.

In light of attachment and defense patterns, learning to identify when you are emotionally dumping rather than venting may be critical to building safe, intimate relationships. Do you often find yourself on the receiving end of emotional dumping? It may be time for you to set a boundary. Boundaries limit the amount of space, energy, or time spent between you and another person. They are clear, direct, and can vary in terms of their flexibility. Setting a boundary is a way of protecting your emotional energy and wellbeing.

They can offer a reflection to the person who may be unaware of their tendency to dump. Setting a boundary requires you to be aware of your own needs, energy, and what you will and will not allow. For many people, setting a boundary can at first feel mean or selfish, especially when another person is in distress.

If you need extra support in boundary setting, here are a few places to start:. Once you set your boundaries, you can aid in the transition from dumping to healthy venting by practicing active listening. And when we learn how to listen to others, we become better at listening to ourselves—a key to reducing your tendency to emotionally dump.

When actively listening, you place your focus on the person speaking and the perspective they are trying to communicate. Examples can include evaluating or judging, solving, or withdrawing. Remember, active listening is not about fixing a problem for another person, but about trying to understanding their experience and emotional state as best you can.

Part of the venting process is being empathetic. Empathy can be conflated with kindness, sympathy, or pity. This is like the blood that comes out of wound following the pus.

It is as the core of their emotional wound. As I have written before , when people are upset, it matters less what you tell them than what you enable them to tell you. And not before. You have 1 free article s left this month. You are reading your last free article for this month.

Subscribe for unlimited access. So this girl was venting to me yesterday, she is probably the imposter. When an imposter enters or exits a vent in the popular game , Among Us.

As only imposters can vent, this is a sure way to find the killer and vote them out. Guys, it's yellow , I saw them venting in Medbay. Someone climbing up a vent. What are you doing. I am doing a new sport. It is climbing up vents. Sometimes, it can actually worsen your stress. They think that venting to a sympathetic colleague or friend is a more private and safe way to blow off steam. The other camp thinks that venting only spreads more stress and negativity. They believe that there are more effective paths to a calmer way of being, such as focusing on solutions instead of problems, looking for the positives in a situation, and even trying to distract themselves.

Instead, more strategic approaches can be more effective at relieving and preventing stress without any of the negative consequences. Fortunately, there are 10 options.

Venting is pervasive in the workplace. According to Kristin Behfar of the University of Virginia, as reported by Fortune, the average employee either vents or hears someone else vent about four times a day. As you now know though, venting can be a double-edged sword.

Oftentimes, a well-intended rant can create new problems.